Sleep. . . it's all about the baby's sleep. Really every book on caring for a baby that's out there is about how to get the kid to sleep. How to put him down, how to keep him asleep, how to get him to sleep through the night.
And everyone says not to ever get cocky, because the moment you figure it out the baby is on to something new. On the other hand, no matter how many times your friends tell you something, you really didn't believe it until it happens to you.
Ten days ago, I had finally figured out the sleeping pattern. (With the aid of my oh-so-obsessive daily graph of when he sleeps and when he eats.) I knew how it worked, I knew when he slept, I knew how much to feed him to get him to sleep at least one 5-hour stretch at night. I typed it all up to hang on the fridge -- THE schedule. That same day, he wouldn't go to sleep at night. He fussed, he fidgeted and I was distraught. I realized he hadn't slept well during the day for awhile either -- that this "pattern" I'd discerned, was more about the fact that he'd stopped napping as much, and that that wasn't a good thing. He was fussy as hell.
Back to the drawing board.
Luckily, I have also oh-so-obsessively read pretty much every single baby book that is out there. I know LOTS of plans for getting the baby to sleep. I went to plan two (after consulting with fellow moms, Rebecka, Carrie, and Elizabeth) which was the enforced napping plan. Put Ben down and make him stay, and just let him cry if need be.
It was glorious. He fell asleep and slept as soundly as he had during the day in a week. Ok, the crying was very hard to take -- but the results were so good: a happy child, a well-rested child, and two bouts of sleeping for 6 hours in a row at night. On top of which my day felt orderly. I was ecstatic. So that lasted all of three days, before Steve and I just decided that the whole putting him down to sleep and letting him cry thing was a crock -- sure it worked sometimes. But more often it just revved him up, and took him longer to go to sleep.
Plan three: Enforced napping, with an extra step -- soothe him to sleep and then put him to bed. We have been on this plan for three days now, and I can't tell you how wonderfully in control I feel. During the daytime (at night, he falls asleep without help) I put him to sleep when he starts getting tired by sitting him on my chest, letting him suck on my finger, while I read a book. It takes anywhere from 5 to 30 minutes for him to close his eyes and relax totally, and then I put him to bed. It's worked like a charm for three days.
I clearly have everything figured out. . . so tomorrow will surely be the day when it's all going to go to pot and we'll be on to plan four. . .
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